What Is A Dominatrix?

A Dominatrix, more commonly known as a Domme, Domina or Mistress, is a woman who takes the dominant role in BDSM/Fetish/Kink activities and play sessions. A Mistress is usually portrayed or seen as some woman dressed in leather, brandishing some torture device, and is only out to inflict pain with whips, canes, floggers, etc. on their male submissives and slaves. However, women can also serve a Domme. People who hire a professional Domme are usually excited by the Dominant/submissive role play and can come from a wide variety of backgrounds and sexual preferences, including couples and the LGBQTIA+ community.

Inflicting pain is just one aspect of the BDSM/Fetish/Kink lifestyle. There is so much more to explore down this rabbit hole. In some cases, erotic humiliation such as verbal or public humiliation is used. A Goddess can also exert or demonstrate her absolute control through bondage, anal play, age play, or even softer, more sensual acts like shibari (rope play), or wax play. The list is endless.

Pro Domme

A pro Domme, is a Dominatrix who charges for her services. It is a unique and individual service in which both the Domme and her submissive or slave communicate with each other regarding what will take place during a session beforehand. This session can be anything from an hour to two or more, depending on the service being paid for. She can have domestic slaves who will carry out household chores, garden services or other handyman duties around the Domme’s home, in return for her services, approval, and gratification.

Mistresses may also have sex slaves or bulls in attendance or serving her. A bull is generally seen as a more attractive, better-endowed man with great sexual talents and will be brought in as a third party. A bull will satisfy his Mistress sexually while a slave/partner will watch (cuckold relationship). A sex slave in the community is someone who has consensually agreed to be owned by their Domme and is there to satisfy her sexual needs as she deems fit. A pro-Domme retains all rights-of-ownership of her slave/s as long as consent exists. Whilst slavery was abolished many years ago, it is not unusual in the community, for one person to give up all their rights and place themselves in a position of absolute servitude. There are Mistresses who have live-in, 24/7 slaves. They will typically serve as a sex slave too.

This may be a cause of concern for many people, especially those who do not understand this ‘hidden’ world. One vital and highly important factor that people outside of such a relationship must understand is that there is a great deal of respect and CONSENT is always given. Nothing is forced and it is a relationship that is agreed upon and entered into by adults who have discussed the relationship and the activities that will take place in their ‘play’ time.

Femdom

A Dominatrix may also be referred to as a FemDom. In this case, a pro Domme who engages in Femdom activities believes completely in Female Supremacy and that men are there only to serve her at all times and obey or fulfil her every wish and command. A classic example and probably the best, is that of Matriarch Ezada Sinn.

Some people consider a Dominatrix to be a sex worker. However, the arrangements between a sex worker and a pro-Domme and their respective clients are very different, due to the criteria and expectations for the kinds of services provided.

Domina is a woman who has been in the industry for some time and has honed her skills. She is well educated in the many various activities in the BDSM/Fetish/Kink world. She offers a specialized and highly skilled service that requires both physical and mental work and stamina. A Dominatrix is not for everyone and her work does not come cheap. Typically people who are wealthier and who can afford the services of a Domme will be the ones to do so.

A pro Domme works on her own terms and is her own boss. She is an expert who takes you on a journey to explore your deepest, darkest desires and fantasies in a safe, sane, sober (S.S.S.C.), and consensual environment. There is no judgment. There are a few kink activities that may be dangerous, especially if a Domme does not have enough experience or background knowledge of that activity, to do them safely. A pro-Domme is capable of using her expertise to ensure her client is taken care of at all times.

Rules & Etiquette

When you engage a dominant at the EPICURE CLUB, you are expected to follow the High Protocol. Please note, that ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance will simply earn you a world of discipline.

Discreet Venue

The EPICURE CLUB is the most discreet adult club in Cape Town and the Western Cape. We thrive on naughty and live discreetness. We have luxurious hotel rooms for those who want to stay longer than their session. It should not come as a surprise, that we have a dedicated dungeon. We have a jacuzzi for those who need aftercare for their bruised asses.

Our Dominatrices

The following Dominants can be booked at this BDSM club:

Lilith Noir

If the cost of an experienced Pro Domme exceeds your budget, consider a less experienced one. Lilith Noir has three years of experience.

Please note that Mistress Lilith is not a Lady Bizarre. She is happy to dominate you, but she will not have sex with you.

Protocol and Etiquette

1. You are expected to mind your manners and to use them at all times. This includes saying PLEASE and THANK YOU.
2. You are to refer to any one of our Dommes as Mistress at all times during a session.
3. You are expected to be open and honest at all times, whether in a session or not. Dishonesty will get you into the bad book and could possibly end up with you being banned.
4. Personal hygiene is of the utmost importance. Filth and dirt will not be entertained. Kindly arrive showered, shaved, and neatly groomed. Should you be arriving from the office or a function and have not had the time to do so beforehand, Epicure does offer shower and bath facilities. Ensure you arrive at least 20 minutes earlier before your session to clean up.
5. After a session, clean up your own bodily fluids (should there be any), and personal belongings. We are Mistresses, not maids.
6. NO drugs or mind-altering substances are allowed during sessions. It goes against all S.S.C. (Safe, Sane, and Consensual) rules and protocols. There is also no way you can fully comprehend what is happening to your mind or body if you are not in control of your senses.
7. Absolutely NO sex with a Mistress. We are not your playthings or toys. Do not ask for sexual favors or intimate acts of body worship. You will be booted (literally) out of that session and off the premises.
8. No minors, submissives, or slaves under the age of 21. We reserve the right to ask for ID if we deem it fit to do so.
9. During a session, the Mistress is in control. Any requests for activities that have not been communicated and/or negotiated in advance/prior to the session, will not be entertained and may result in the session being terminated.
10. All play or sessions involving anal/vaginal play require that you make use of an internal cleanser/douche before arrival. Make it part of your hygiene routine.

Trust is an integral part of sessions together. You are trusting a Mistress to be responsible for what transpires in your time with her. Mistress expects you to arrive fed, hydrated, cleaned, and ready to receive what has been planned and agreed on.

Session Policies

Discretion and privacy are two of our favorite words. What happens in sessions, stays in sessions! Speaking out of these play times is just unprofessional and is never discussed with other submissives, slaves, or others. A session with one of our professional Madams is both an honor and an adventure. It is an experience that will be memorable and it is to remain that way. You are expected to treat these times together with the same respect, discretion, and privacy.

1. Time is precious - DO NOT waste it.
2. All sessions MUST be booked a minimum of 48 hours in advance. This is mandatory for newcomers.
3. All bookings are to be made via hello@epicure.club or +27-74-878-000.
4. One-liners requesting same-day appointments and requests asking to be seen in the next hour, will not be met with wide open arms. It only shows your ignorance and disrespect for how precious and valuable time is.
5. Once you have made a booking, you will receive a payment link. Make use of it and prove you are worthy to be in our presence. We will not entertain time-wasters or broke-ass cheapskates. We provide a unique and bespoke service that is thought out and carefully tailored for each individual's desires, kinks, and fantasies. It requires mental and physical energy, stamina, and time.

We value your time - please value ours.

Cancellations

1. Rescheduling requires 24 hours' notice (minimum) to keep your session and payment in play.  It will be kept as credit towards your next booking.
2. Should you cancel for a second time, you will forfeit your session, payment, and future bookings.
3. Canceling an appointment within 24 hours of the start time will result in the loss of your payment as it is unlikely that another client has booked for that time on such short notice.
4. A minimum of 72 hours is required for extended sessions (longer than what is stipulated under the rates section).
5. NO-SHOWS - If you miss an appointment without giving notice, a minimum tribute of $1000 will have to be paid in advance to regain favorable communication and a chance of securing a session.

Rates

Longer sessions (costs and activities) can be discussed.

Kindly note that ALL sessions are to be booked in advance and once booked, a payment link will be forwarded to you via WhatsApp.

Cancellation policies can be viewed in the section marked Cancellations.

Speciality fetishes and kinks are subject to additional tribute which will be determined by our Dominatrices.

Travel to other provinces in South Africa or internationally is possible and will need to be discussed in detail. Kindly note that these arrangements will include accommodation and travel fares, as well as compensation for the BDSM sessions.

Fetishes and Kinks

The above are a few of the services offered by our professional Dominatrices. This 'rabbit hole' has an endless myriad of burrows to be explored. We do not judge, but are here to assist you on your journey of self-discovery and sexual enlightenment.

Booking

If you would like to book a session, please email serve@epicure.club or WhatsApp ‭074‭ 948 0000‬. We will then discuss your needs, the duration of the session, and the associated costs of realizing your fantasy. If you decide to proceed, you will be sent a discreet payment link via WhatsApp or email. Once you have made the payment, we will confirm your appointment.

If you are not willing to pay for services, we respectfully suggest that you refrain from requesting such services. Instead, attend one of our regular kink events. At one of these events you can be disciplined in public, which will not be as discreet, but you will have discipline for a small investment — the price of the ticket.